This is a story from last year that didn’t feel relevant at the time, but given all the work I just did to get the site back up after Blogger disabled it, I wanted to share it. Regardless, the fresh content will help the site get reindexed.

So, pretty soon after the Duke Chronicle article dropped last year, a mutual friend of Jay/Jack/Jaybird and mine reached out for a drink. We’ll call him, “Red”. I figured it was about Jay, but I jumped at the excuse to catch up with him regardless.

Red and I ran through some general life updates and then the conversation came back around to Jay. He apologized a bit, I could tell he wasn’t super comfortable, but I’m well used to Jay sending his cronies to do the things he’s too much of a coward to do himself. Red was basically was asking if I’d agree to a meeting with Jay.

Now, mind you, that while the Duke Chronicle Article was already posted, neither I, nor Monica had received any letters or emails from Jay’s lawyers letting us know that the threat of litigation was lifted. So, I let Red know that while I and Monica are under active legal threat, there is zero chance that I will ever meet with him. I let him know that I would agree to a meeting, if and only if, Jay provided a letter guaranteeing that he would not pursue legal action against us and admit that he did in fact do the things we have accused him of. The proof was already out there, so, felt like an easy lift if this was a genuine ask and not a further attempt at manipulation and intimidation.

But then I switched gears. I let Red know how sorry I was that Jay put him in the middle of all this and I asked him how much he knew about the situation. Turns out, while he knew about the Facebook posts from a few years ago, he knew nothing about the website, the legal threats or the recent the Duke Chronicle article that included the text messages Jay sent to the Duke student he was involved with when my original FB post was posted.

So, I proceeded to let him know what a raging douche canoe his friend was to omit all of that information when asking Red to do him this favor. I didn’t need Red to take sides, just wanted him to understand the situation. Red listened, and took it all in, but didn’t generally react much. He was and is still a loyal friend to Jay as far as I know.

Red and I then changed gears and talked more about life updates and what we are working on over a couple glasses of Bourbon.

I never heard back on my offer to meet Jay if he provided written retraction of his legal threat. Although I have seen Red a few times since and all is well with the two of us. Jay hasn’t come up as a topic.